Dear You,
I’ve been thinking
of the old-fashioned letter and how we hardly ever send or receive them
anymore. How much delicate, passionate and truthful writing is now lost? An
email is never the same. The reply can be too swift. It’s more like a
conversation – indeed, increasingly like a conversation given that we now spend
so much time texting.
Today, out of
something like loneliness, I decided to treat some of this blogspace as a
letter, a letter to you - lost friend.
By the time you’ve lived half a century, you’ve lost some friends along the
way, either due to a falling-out-of -friendship, change of geography or a
blow-up argument. I’ve lost friends to all three of these – and to a kind of
disinterest that can settle in like dust. Let’s say you were lost to geography –
a kinder reason than the others.
I have a new room.
It’s my step-daughter’s old room. My daughter moved into when she moved back
home but an infestation of some minute mites – unidentifiable by the naked eye –
forced us to change rooms. I had been in her old room, a pale blue room
decorated with the occasional green turtle wall decal and with a pale blue dado
frieze she chose when we first moved in. I loved that room. The window was
easily visible from the desk and just outside I’d put a birdbath that is always
heavily used by different birds ranging from the too-large currawongs who
balance carefully on it, to the tiny handfuls of wrens who flick in and out.
I’m now in a room
that was painted a bright almost-apple green. The window is sideways to the
desk and looks out, through a large tree, onto the blank side of my neighbour’s
house. Birds come to the tree and I’ll put a birdbath in on this side before
summer. I had hoped that moving from one
side of the house to the other would improve my internet service for audio
things like Spotify and Skype, but it hasn’t. It’s the only room that hasn’t
yet had wooden blinds put in, but at least the curtains are new and clean.
I’d feel hemmed in
and sad if the room wasn’t just that much larger. In summer it will be
unbearable – it’s one of the warmest rooms in the house and it will be like
working in a sauna. I’m not looking forward to that. But, for the moment, I’m
enjoying be able to spread out and introduce yet another bookcase into the mix.
But I didn’t
really want to tell you about all that. I wanted to talk about bread.
Specifically, I wanted to talk about sourdough and marriage. I’ve been making sourdough – which generates
quite a bit of floury mess in the kitchen, if you’re aiming for the correct
hydration. Then there’s a sloppy mess of dough that needs to be pushed around,
rather than actually kneaded. To clean your hands after pushing this around for
five minutes, you use white flour and rub vigorously. Bits tend to fly around.
The Accountant is
uneasy about this activity. First he
hovered. Now he tries to absent himself from the kitchen. Afterwards he cleans
up my cleanup. He joyfully eats the baked bread. It’s just the initial stages
he resents. He doesn’t enjoy cooking. Left on his own, he survives on a mixture
of take-away and camping meals – sausages and mash, scrambled eggs and chops. A
satisfactory meal for him is one composed of protein and two veg, one of which,
at least, has escaped being burnt.
Today I took my
dough mix outside, onto the deck, and moved it around where I would make least
mess. Did he notice my effort to maintain harmony? The bread, rising now in its
little cane basket, is a spelt loaf. I wish you were coming over for dinner. We
could cut it, still warm, and eat it with the oxtail stew the Mothership gave
me.
The Accountant won’t
eat oxtail, but I love the glutinous flesh, falling from knuckled bones. It was
one of the first things I learn to cook when I moved out of home. I think I
rang my mother from a pay phone to get her recipe, which I then tweaked over
the decades. A pay phone – STD because I was living in Toowoomba and she was in
Brisbane. That was back when we wrote flurries of letters and checking the mail
was a daily excitement.
Dear you, I hope
your kitchen still smells of garlic, ginger and lemons and that you have paused
in your dinner preparations to half catch at the edge of memory, a meal shared
years ago.
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